Being Discreet
It really drives me nuts when someone who is in my "inner circle" betrays my trust, especially when I am very explicit about my expectations when it comes to matters that I consider private.
He justifies it by saying he only told his girlfriend, whom he trusts completely. My counter-argument to that, of course, is that I don't trust his girlfriend. She hasn't made it into my inner circle. Besides, God only knows who she trusts completely! At the end of the day, when it's something that concerns me, the only inner circle that counts is my inner circle.
After the initial flash of anger faded away, this incident really got me thinking. After all, is it right for me to expect someone to be discreet to the point that they would not tell their girlfriend or boyfriend? What if it were not a girlfriend, but a fiancee? What if it were their spouse? At what point does revealing something to one person automatically mean revealing something to a couple?
More importantly, am I inadvertently driving a wedge into a relationship by demanding that one person keep a secret from his/her significant other, even if the information has no bearing whatsoever on their relationship?
Well, whatever the answers may be to these questions, it saddens me to realize that my inner circle just got smaller this week.
Tags: Personal, Relationships
Posted by CF at 6:50 PM
2 Comments
really hard. everyone will have their own "inner circles", and even if they don't mean to, somehow become responsible for spreading the word via their own personal "trusted" networks. kaya nga better not tell anyone at all. ;-)
Yes, I agree -- it's really better not to say anything, which is why I usually don't.
I only did this time because I was asking for help and needed to explain the situation.
Talk about adding insult to injury, 'no? He didn't help me na nga, he didn't keep his mouth shut pa. :(
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