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No Sparks

Had my blind date today, and if I had to describe it in just one word, it would be... relaxed.

To start with, he was around an inch shorter than me, and it didn't help that I was in my usual 2-inch heels. I think right at first glance, we both felt that this seriously could not lead to anything, so the pressure was off and there was no need to be too careful about what you say or do. It was easy to just be yourself, and the atmosphere became really relaxed and cordial.

It helped that my cousin came along. That kept the conversation going almost nonstop since I had not seen him in such a long time and we were each truly interested in what the other had been up to since we last met.

As to the blind date... I think if he had been four inches taller and a little less of a Mr. Nice Guy, he would have actually been quite interesting.

I never thought the day would come that I would say this of a blind date, but here it is -- he's too much of a nice, safe guy! I think I'd be bored out of my wits with someone like that after a few months. Everything's too structured, too controlled, too puritanical (for lack of a better word).

Here's another way to look at it -- think of ABC's TV series Lost and picture Jack vs. Sawyer. Then imagine someone even more of a nice guy than Jack, someone with a lot less edge. That's what he was like.

I can understand why my uncle thought he would be a good guy to introduce to me, since he's really a good guy. And my mom would probably approve of him because he's a good guy.

But when the type of guy I find attractive is someone who's a good guy like Jack, but with a little more edge... well, let's just say that the spark's not there.

Tags: Personal, Relationships

Posted by CF at 11:35 PM